Commitment and Courage
Make the Difference
Commitment and courage: The magic force
that makes the difference
Commitment is the ultimate decider of your goal setting success.
If you’re not committed, you won’t succeed.
So what is
commitment? When you are committed, you will do anything to
reach your goal, no matter how hard, tedious, boring,
scary...you will do whatever it takes to get where you want to
go. If you have a lot of questions, doubts or resistances to
taking action, start thinking about how much you really want
your goal. Stop fooling yourself and pick one you are committed
to! Committing to things takes courage.
But there are other reasons you need courage to reach success
with your goals. When the going gets tough and you have a
difficult period or long plateau, do you have the courage to
stick with your goal even though you may not have any idea how
you will actually reach it? You may even have an inner nagging
voice that says; “you’ll never get what you want”.
Do you have the courage to create an exciting, grand vision for
yourself? Tony Robbins says a big reason why people are not
excited and motivated is that their vision is too small, it
lacks power. Sometimes even exciting passion-filled goals have
steps that are tedious, boring, hard...can you keep going when
the going gets tough?
If you decide to create powerful, passion filled goals, you will
probably need to make changes in yourself in order to achieve
them. Do you have the courage to make those changes?
25. Take immediate and consistent action on new goals! Tony
Robbins says that whenever he sets a goal he always takes at
least one immediate action as quickly as possible (even a small
one makes a big difference). Then, take an action toward your
goal every day, this will get you motivated to take more.
Creating a list of sub-goals and the actions required to achieve
them will increase your momentum. Remember to keep changing your
approach when what you’re doing doesn’t work.
26. Get out of your comfort zone: Often the comfort zone can work
against your desire to reach your goals because it holds you in
place instead of urging you forward. Your comfort zone is what
makes up most of your life, all the things you already know how
to do, all the habits and reliable experiences you’re used to
having. In order to change your tendency to stay comfortable you
need to be conscious of your actions and thoughts.
Make it a practice to do things on a daily basis that challenge
you in various ways. They can be as small as taking different
routes to get to familiar places, eating something new, meeting
new people, trying a new hobby or just breaking out of routines.
Or, they can be as big as asking your boss for a large raise,
getting married, getting divorced, buying a house or moving to
another part of the country.
They can even be as outrageous as going bungee jumping, fire
walking or scuba diving (assuming you’ve never done any of these
before). You have to provide your own urging. Stretch yourself!
27. “Commit to change”: Imagine who you’ll become as you reach
your goals and actively decide that you want to be that new and
different person. The very act of formulating a goal will
inevitably result in changes in you and in your life.
28. Do whatever it takes: If you really want to reach your goals,
you have to decide to “pay the price”. Sometimes there are
things you must do that are boring, difficult, risky or
scary...it doesn’t matter how hard it is; if you want your goal
you must still take the action.
29. Don’t give up: When the going gets hard, don’t give up;
instead, try to get creative about new ways to get to your goal.
Use the creative tools to break yourself out of being stuck and
go around that obstacle, over it, under it, or through it.
Possibly the most important quality of the successful 3% of the
participants in the Yale study was…they never gave up!
30. Get help when you need it: As you’re moving toward your goal,
ask for support and help from others. Don’t be too proud to get
help. Sometimes another person’s viewpoint can help you think
better about what you want and where you want to go.
31. Take appropriate risks: Sometimes reaching your goals will
require that you take risks you’re really uncomfortable with.
Change is an uncomfortable state; we all want certainty and
security in our lives. But if you don’t take the risks, you may
not reach your goal. Make a decision to break out of your
comfort zone (see #27). Get support when needed.
32. Be honest with yourself: Be honest with yourself about your
progress and whether the goal is still appropriate. If it is,
does it need any changes? Are you following through and taking
consistent action? Have the courage to admit your blind spots
and to be humble. Sometimes you may need to change a belief or
habit. Are you willing to change to get what you want?
33. Write your commitment: In your Goals Journal, it’s helpful
and motivating to write why you are absolutely committed to
reaching your goals. This involves stating all the benefits
you’ll get when you’ve achieved the goal.
34. Keep your sense of humor: Have the courage to keep your sense
of humor while going after your goals. Especially when progress
is temporarily slow. Tom Hopkins, the great Sales Trainer would
tell sales people who missed a sale: “I never see failure as
failure, only as an opportunity to develop my sense of humor”.
Play with your goals. This will bring in lots of energy to help
move you forward. Make the whole process fun and inviting. Are
you having fun yet?
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